Anyone else knackered all the time?

[TolishAPurd]

Hard to say. Probably a combination of a few things. Full time job is 42 hours split between days and nights, I give 70-80 hours on call cover for the retained station and the cleaning should average a couple of days a week but I'd been hitting it every day spare for a couple of weeks, and I've got an autistic son that requires quite a lot of care and my wife was putting some pressure on so all things together probably stacked up.

Boody hell mate. Must be raking it in with all those hours, but something has to give. I hope you're in a better place now. If I were you I would knock the on call stuff on the head, or at least minimise the hours- theres more to life than work.

 

[boarcity]

wife putting on pressure danfire,wev all been there , why they do it lord knows but they do. i found the best way to stop them in their tracks is to scare them big time.

discuss your new hobby,plans to install a couple of beehives down garden.

i once pretended i planned building a large earthmound Bund halfway down my garden [with summat mysterious and awful hidden away behind it] and rub your chin thoughtfully as you sketch out the plans gets em worried and off your case . "has Charles rang about the bund dear?" always got my ex poopin herself

this year i took up keepin tarantulas, subconsciously i think i did this as current missus nagged me and i knew these pets she"d not like. "now i think one of the babies might hav escaped,its a long shot, keep your eyes open dear "

 

[Solarpanelcleanington]

Aaah passive aggression.

There's only so much weight a man can bear before he topples.

Hope you're finding time to chill danfire.

 

[Danfire]

Boody hell mate. Must be raking it in with all those hours, but something has to give. I hope you're in a better place now. If I were you I would knock the on call stuff on the head, or at least minimise the hours- theres more to life than work.

Got a few ideas to make things easier; going to try to give up the three hour drill nights, get myself a van so I don't have to load and unload the family car every day I clean or worse get a phone call half way through the day telling me I've got to abandon all my cleaning appointments because the car is needed for a sick grandchilds doctors appointment or other family problem and I have a colleague I use casually (will try to use him as much as he can give through the winter). As for raking it in, after a few years of no pay rises and a jacking up of the pension contribution rates and a few years of inflation I'd reached a point where I couldn't pay down the mortgage anymore and was just servicing the debt interest. If my boy wasn't how he is my wife would have been out working years ago, she used to be a barristers clerk and when we both worked all those years ago things were easy. So, really, the money is down to me and window cleaning pays at least double the hourly rate of the full time job so I'm very motivated to make that work.

 

[adamangler]

In my mid forties, having never having suffered any mental issues I had a breakdown about six months ago. Mine started with working flat out under a bit of extra pressure on my time. Next thing I'm feeling euphoric, like I could do anything, I felt brilliant almost superhuman, I was just getting stuck into everything I could think of. The first crash came when I was planting a tree in my front garden, horizon started swirling, couldn't stop my hands trembling, thought I was having a heart attack. Calmed myself down and my wife called the doctor who said I was having an anxiety attack and told me to rest. Went out cleaning the next day and had another, worse episode, ended up on the doctors couch convinced I was either dying or losing my marbles. Ended up getting signed off work for a month and needed every day of that resting before I got back to a sort of normality. Really need to watch myself, I hope I'm a bit more aware of the warning signs now and have to manage my workload to avoid getting on that slippery slope again.

Dan I can relate to the panic attacks they are the scariest thing. The symptoms mimic a heart attack and the fear is uncontrollable. I've always suffered with anxiety mine I believe stems from having a heart condition that although doesn't need any intervention it needs keeping an eye on.

I remember my first panic attack I was in the kitchen when I felt unwell, I looked in the mirror I was drip white I felt like I was going to pass out, I started panicking and got chest pains. I rung the ambulance. When they arrived I momentarily felt better they took me in ambulance anyway to check. Well my mouth went really dry I went dizzy almost a daze like state like I was on drugs my heart rate was up to 160 and the media told me I was having a possible heart attack. On the way to the hospital I felt really relaxed and almost high and peaceful like I was dying but I had accepted it. Anyway they did all the tests and was clear.

I went on to have another 3 really bad ones over the next few years. I've felt it come on a few times since and learned to control it by breathing and calming myself down.

Come to think if it lately the symptoms have been creeping back k, tired all the time, numbness in my arms, the odd chest pain and generally depressed. I think of its in you to go this way it's going to be always there.

 

[Jake]

Dan I can relate to the panic attacks they are the scariest thing. The symptoms mimic a heart attack and the fear is uncontrollable. I've always suffered with anxiety mine I believe stems from having a heart condition that although doesn't need any intervention it needs keeping an eye on.
I remember my first panic attack I was in the kitchen when I felt unwell, I looked in the mirror I was drip white I felt like I was going to pass out, I started panicking and got chest pains. I rung the ambulance. When they arrived I momentarily felt better they took me in ambulance anyway to check. Well my mouth went really dry I went dizzy almost a daze like state like I was on drugs my heart rate was up to 160 and the media told me I was having a possible heart attack. On the way to the hospital I felt really relaxed and almost high and peaceful like I was dying but I had accepted it. Anyway they did all the tests and was clear.

I went on to have another 3 really bad ones over the next few years. I've felt it come on a few times since and learned to control it by breathing and calming myself down.

Come to think if it lately the symptoms have been creeping back k, tired all the time, numbness in my arms, the odd chest pain and generally depressed. I think of its in you to go this way it's going to be always there.

Adam, do not except it mate, don't let it be part of your identity, if you admit defeat, it will get worse.

Speak positively over yourself, don't let it steal your days

 

[Danfire]

Dan I can relate to the panic attacks they are the scariest thing. The symptoms mimic a heart attack and the fear is uncontrollable. I've always suffered with anxiety mine I believe stems from having a heart condition that although doesn't need any intervention it needs keeping an eye on.
I remember my first panic attack I was in the kitchen when I felt unwell, I looked in the mirror I was drip white I felt like I was going to pass out, I started panicking and got chest pains. I rung the ambulance. When they arrived I momentarily felt better they took me in ambulance anyway to check. Well my mouth went really dry I went dizzy almost a daze like state like I was on drugs my heart rate was up to 160 and the media told me I was having a possible heart attack. On the way to the hospital I felt really relaxed and almost high and peaceful like I was dying but I had accepted it. Anyway they did all the tests and was clear.

I went on to have another 3 really bad ones over the next few years. I've felt it come on a few times since and learned to control it by breathing and calming myself down.

Come to think if it lately the symptoms have been creeping back k, tired all the time, numbness in my arms, the odd chest pain and generally depressed. I think of its in you to go this way it's going to be always there.

I can relate to all those symptoms. I have only had that one spate earlier this year and I hope to never experience it again. I'm hoping mine was bought on by exhaustion and plan to nip things in the bud if I feel the onset of symptoms. I think my early warning might be getting short tempered and losing the normal filters that prevent us from saying whatever comes into our heads. Can be a bit embarrassing telling the person in front at the checkout to get get a fecking move on because you're running late.

 

[SkulBlaker]

Diet is a big factor in it mate, as well as vitamins and exercise, but the fact that you've said you suffer from anxiety says a lot. My wife has post natal depression and is on melds for that (has been for 2 years now) and she is very tired all the time (side effect from the meds) now this may sound to some like a load of shite but she now does Yoga, and has helped her no end, both with body and mind. I had done it myself a few years ago when doing p90x and I'll tell you it's a workout in itself.

It's not for everyone and I understand that, and you only need a little bit of floor space and 30 minutes, but may be what your looking for.

I don't sleep well at the best of times but I'm laid back and nothing bothers me and can function that way, but I understand how you feel in the fact that I've seen it first hand. Hope it gets better for you mate, if you need any help or just want a chat then I'm here.

 

[Jimroot]

I've had one major panic attack. I got tunnel vision and it felt like I was gong to die just sitting there. then the mind reset itself. After it abated it felt like being in the eye of the storm. Clarity. Mine was brought on by fear of failure at work, I was under a deadline it was impossible to achieve. After it, I went back to work and told them they're unreasonable and I don't care the consequences.

 

[steve garwood]

Don't want to get all Zen on you, but when I was in hospital, I was advised to read a book to try and slow down, and therefore lower my blood pressure. I took this advise and found the book helpful. Its called 'the monk who sold his Ferrari' by robin Sharma. Far out man