Thelittlefella
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Hello all. Just a little update. Things have gone south again. Wednesday morning, I ask a simple question to my dad and he snaps an answer back. You need to communicate in business. No communication = problems. I can't have an intelligent conversation with my old man without him acting like he's about to chin me. I think he just wants a nodding dog like my brother but one that can deal with the accounts and customers. He walks off the job because after about a minute of conversation ?. I think "sod this". I'm a grown man, I'm entitled to a simple answer to a simple question. I walked off as I won't work with my brother without him there, as it's too much work keeping an eye on him.
Anyway, I exploded over the phone to him that afternoon, let it all out. Told him that all I've done and the way I was was to be better off, for all of us. I said I was finished with it and he could look after it himself now and see how easy it was for himself. I really meant that - had a word with my girl and she said it was making our lives miserable. He came that afternoon to have a go. He said that I wanted the business all for myself and then barged his way in so I threw him out. Not good. Don't want to get into a fist fight with my dad, as I think that's territory that won't ever be forgotten, but I raised my hands to throw him out and told him he wasn't welcome here.
Fast forward to today. 3 missed calls off him this morning and then he comes round angry, throws van keys at me, tells me I've ruined his life and relationship with my mum?, and that it's all mine now. Won't be the case. just one of his tantrums. It's an example of his childishness. I'm not faultless. I don't always know when to let things go when it comes to work - I demand the highest standards as I know people talk and don't want the reputation of a cowboy, but I don't react like him. I'm smart enough to know that'll make things worse. So the vans outside now. I've offered to buy it all off him when we've argued in the past, lock, stock and barrel. If it's still there Sunday night, I'll do the same. I have a decent father in law who I can talk to more than my dad - makes me a bit upset that's the case, and there's a chance, I could take out a loan with him to pay my dad off.
Don't know what's happened in the past 48 hours with him and work. I can't keep him happy working with him, and when I'm not there, I get his back up. So I can't do right. Girlfriend said it's because he can't manage the business without me. I think that's true to be honest. Never should have brought my brother in. Fell to pieces when we started carrying him.
Anyway, I exploded over the phone to him that afternoon, let it all out. Told him that all I've done and the way I was was to be better off, for all of us. I said I was finished with it and he could look after it himself now and see how easy it was for himself. I really meant that - had a word with my girl and she said it was making our lives miserable. He came that afternoon to have a go. He said that I wanted the business all for myself and then barged his way in so I threw him out. Not good. Don't want to get into a fist fight with my dad, as I think that's territory that won't ever be forgotten, but I raised my hands to throw him out and told him he wasn't welcome here.
Fast forward to today. 3 missed calls off him this morning and then he comes round angry, throws van keys at me, tells me I've ruined his life and relationship with my mum?, and that it's all mine now. Won't be the case. just one of his tantrums. It's an example of his childishness. I'm not faultless. I don't always know when to let things go when it comes to work - I demand the highest standards as I know people talk and don't want the reputation of a cowboy, but I don't react like him. I'm smart enough to know that'll make things worse. So the vans outside now. I've offered to buy it all off him when we've argued in the past, lock, stock and barrel. If it's still there Sunday night, I'll do the same. I have a decent father in law who I can talk to more than my dad - makes me a bit upset that's the case, and there's a chance, I could take out a loan with him to pay my dad off.
Don't know what's happened in the past 48 hours with him and work. I can't keep him happy working with him, and when I'm not there, I get his back up. So I can't do right. Girlfriend said it's because he can't manage the business without me. I think that's true to be honest. Never should have brought my brother in. Fell to pieces when we started carrying him.