Anyone working in between Xmas and New year?

[dazmond]

I live in an area with lots of crack and heroin addicts as well as drinking alcoholics but it has zero affect on my life because I'm not part of their lifestyle. Most of the last 20 years I've been free of drink and drugs so they don't bother me.

The problem with your brother and his girlfriend is your dad is funding their drink/drugs habits and even paying her rent!

Why do you think this is?

Why can't he just cut ties with them both and let them fend for themselves and reach rock bottom?This is the only way forward.

Only offer help in financial terms if they get help and get into recovery NOT BEFORE! They will have to show they are serious about getting clean and sober and moving forward to stand on their own 2 feet and be responsible adults who pay their way in life.

Failing that I would cut them out of my life totally unless they get into recovery. Tough love is the only way!

 

[Chris34]

Why do you think this is?

Why can't he just cut ties with them both and let them fend for themselves and reach rock bottom?This is the only way forward.

My thoughts are that there is more to it. The only explanation that would make any sense for his actions is that she's got something on him and is blackmailing him. I said this to my mum last year at the time of his stroke, she confronted him about it and said is there anything going on between you and her, he laughed it off and said nothing is going on.

I still believe there must be more to it but we will never know unless something is found out in the future. It would make more sense though. I could understand his actions if he was being put under pressure via blackmail.

I did bring it up with my little brother (he's absolutely fine no issues with him) and he said he thought exactly the same but said if it was blackmail he thinks my dad would have just come clean by now, because he thinks there is only so much blackmail a person would take before it becomes easier to just tell the truth...

Who knows though, if it's something really really bad then the truth could destroy his life completely...

That's what I think anyway. It would make a lot more sense for his actions compared to what we are being led to believe at the moment.

 

[Chris34]

Tough love is the only way!

I've told them that. It's not actually tough love though, if they actually loved them they wouldn't give them money. Giving money is the easy way to just make the problem go away for a day or so. True love is doing the right thing.

They know everything they should be doing...

 

[dazmond]

Do you think your brothers girlfriend has offered sexual favours to your dad and he's accepted? And now shes threatening to tell your mum?
This is a very common form of blackmail....

 

[Chris34]

Do you think your brothers girlfriend has offered sexual favours to your dad and he's accepted? And now shes threatening to tell your mum?
This is a very common form of blackmail....

That's a possibility but I think it might be more along the lines of revealing something that may have happened in the past before she came on the scene.

He's spent a lot of time with her over the years, a few years ago he would be with her until the early hours of the morning and my mum would be sat at home wondering what he was doing until that time. My dad said he was just talking and making sure she was ok, but he was always very cagey about it and wouldn't let my mum know where he was or reveal any details.

My brother would just go out drinking whilst my dad would be with his girlfriend. My brother is a total walk over, if I was in his shoes there's no chance on earth I'd allow that to happen but my brother just moves aside all the time with everything.

That's what I mean, a lot's happened over the years, anything is possible...

I'm just trying to move on with my own life though. I've learned you can't control others behaviour and as hard as it is I've got to somehow accept it and get on with my own life. I'll continue to try and help where I can and I will be there for my mum but to totally stop what's happening will / is ruining my own life because it's all I can think about, it's not doing me any good. I've got a good hobby and a good business so I should be happy but it's like a cloud is over me all the time so I can't properly laugh and relax. So I'm just going to try and focus on my own life more and living it.

 

[tench0771]

i finished yesterday but i need to do to jobs on friday one takes 15 minits other takes just under 2 hours ill start them 630am get them done bill in and get home asap luckly there right next to each other and 10 minits away from my house just hope it wont be blowing east wind to hard

 

[steve garwood]

Good luck to all those working over Christmas

 

[Part Timer]

Is that you and the Mrs with the Christmas hats on

 

[steve garwood]

Is that you and the Mrs with the Christmas hats on

Just trying on my new Santa outfit now

 

[dazmond]

Back on topic. It's a lovely,bright,sunny day here in the North West. Perfect for window cleaning but I've got another week off yet.

Taking my mother and auntie to the airport at noon as mum off to Spain for a week.

Gym this afternoon then house party tonight before a nice chilled new years eve at home with the missus and dog.

Storm forecast for new years eve and day then cold sunny weather until I go back to work on the 6th.

I think I'll clean mine and my neighbours windows friday or sat and start moving some of my work gear to my missus house.(I'm moving house soon).

 

[Yogi1872]

I live in an area with lots of crack and heroin addicts as well as drinking alcoholics but it has zero affect on my life because I'm not part of their lifestyle. Most of the last 20 years I've been free of drink and drugs so they don't bother me.

The problem with your brother and his girlfriend is your dad is funding their drink/drugs habits and even paying her rent!

Why do you think this is?

Why can't he just cut ties with them both and let them fend for themselves and reach rock bottom?This is the only way forward.

Only offer help in financial terms if they get help and get into recovery NOT BEFORE! They will have to show they are serious about getting clean and sober and moving forward to stand on their own 2 feet and be responsible adults who pay their way in life.

Failing that I would cut them out of my life totally unless they get into recovery. Tough love is the only way!

Smack heads are few and far between now, seems most of the younger generation have kept away from it. I've lost 5 mates through drug over doses, one was my best mate, was best man st his wedding. One guy I know who used to be on smack but he's been of it for years, I asked what could possibly entice you to think youl try that when you can see what it does, he said that's the thing, they didn't know what it done, they were the first wave in the 80,s to take it. He used to just take it at weekends and still work etc until it got a grip of him.

He's done well for himself since coming off it.

I know people from good families, who had a good upbringing end up wasted with drugs.

The new herion is cocaine, the only difference between it and smack is you could tell they were a junkie by looking at them. If you notice in the last 5 to 10 years, there's been more people with mental health issues popping up all over the place, that's down to cocaine 100%. I know a few people who it's ruined, they become paranoid wrecks and it's ruined them. It seems to be socially accepted too.

 

[Part Timer]

The new herion is cocaine, the only difference between it and smack is you could tell they were a junkie by looking at them. If you notice in the last 5 to 10 years, there's been more people with mental health issues popping up all over the place, that's down to cocaine 100%. I know a few people who it's ruined, they become paranoid wrecks and it's ruined them. It seems

It's everywhere, if anyone comes put of the pub bog and flushes the chain I am surprised. 10 years ago it was rare to see it, now they don't even go in the bog to take it, and the amount of 50 & 60 year olds doing it is ridiculous

 

[dazmond]

Plenty of heroin about round here as well as the usual crack and standard cocaine.

Cheap coke is just a normal part of lots of people's lives these days at weekends.

So glad I'm clean and sober. It's truly a blessing....

The endorphins from the gym is my drug of choice these days

 

[Yogi1872]

It's everywhere, if anyone comes put of the pub bog and flushes the chain I am surprised. 10 years ago it was rare to see it, now they don't even go in the bog to take it, and the amount of 50 & 60 year olds doing it is ridiculous

No one bats an eyelid to it too, it's got to a stage where it's socially accepted. It's absolute rife, although il not claim I've never tried it, it's not something I do tbh, I know a guy who sells it and he said that I wouldn't believe the people who gets it from him, people who have really good jobs etc, he didn't mention who amd I didn't ask but he said its people you wouldn't even think. Something like 90 odd % of notes in circulation has traces of cocaine on them it said on some BBC documentary the other year. That's insane.

 

[Yogi1872]

Plenty of heroin about round here as well as the usual crack and standard cocaine.

Cheap coke is just a normal part of lots of people's lives these days at weekends.

So glad I'm clean and sober. It's truly a blessing....

The endorphins from the gym is my drug of choice these days

I don't drink often tbh, probably just over a yesr since I last was drunk. I'd like to know what's actually in the sh1te there buying around here, I went to Mexico and tried it when I was over, the stuff didn't keep you up all night, jumping if the freezer made a noise.

 

[steve garwood]

I know virtually everyone in my local pub, I have a big circle of friends, am very good friends with my neighbours, yet only know 2 people who occasionally have a bit of Charlie as a livener for a big night out.
Nearly all of these love a good beer and a laugh in the pub.
Being a drinker is a blessing

 

[tench0771]

To be fair I spent most of my teens off my rocker coke base pills mdma tones of weed had a right blast it’s really not a big deal anymore I just enjoy a good drink these days live and let be as long as there not robbing to feed there habits

 

[Yogi1872]

Although it wouldn't make any difference for me, I'd much rather the government legalise drugs, the amount of money spent trying to police it is never ending. The police have already admitted that when they get someone big of the streets, his position os filled within an hour as there's that much money to be made that they see the risk as worth it.

They would wipe out drug dealers over night, make an enormous amount of money through tax that it would make them, it would make them alot safer for the people who use them too. Think of how many lives it would have saved when someone has died from taking ecstacy, weather you agree or disagree with drugs, surley everyone can agree that some poor boy or girl doesn't deserve to die because they have taken a dodgy pill at a club etc.

The people who want to do drugs will continue to do so, it would save an endless money pit needed to police it and would free up alot of police staff that could be better used elsewhere.

People say there would be a black market for them, but look at ***'s, there's a black market for them too and hardly anyone buys them because there rubbish. The people who do drugs aren't typicly the people in society people think take them. Most of them will be normal like everyone else, and given the choice of buying it from a pharmacy knowing what's in it etc and buying from someone dodgy saving a fiver, there going to pick the first choice.

If alcohol was just created and hit the streets next week, it would go straight into the class a category.