Anyone working in between Xmas and New year?

[steve garwood]

Everyone on here seems to be using the time off for doing chores.
Does anyone on here actually go out and enjoy themselves?
Miserable sods

 

[THL4KEL]

Im just having a rest. If something breaks I fix it that day or order a replacement.

 

[Iron Giant]

Everyone on here seems to be using the time off for doing chores.
Does anyone on here actually go out and enjoy themselves?
Miserable sods

I'll be doing some chores, just to give my liver a rest for a few hours

 

[dazmond]

Everyone on here seems to be using the time off for doing chores.
Does anyone on here actually go out and enjoy themselves?
Miserable sods

I'm off to my girlfriends works xmas party on Saturday night. (Slap up 3 course xmas dinner,brass band and disco)and obviously xmas day celebrations with family and boxing day im off to the match with my brothers(city v Everton). Got one more house party on the 30th and that's it....

I don't enjoy parties like I used to. It's just not the same clean and sober but I would rather stick a broken bottle up my a*** than go back to drinking again. It's a mugs game IMO....

 

[ched999uk]

I don't enjoy parties like I used to. It's just not the same clean and sober but I would rather stick a broken bottle up my a*** than go back to drinking again. It's a mugs game IMO....

I'm not knocking your decisions, that's your choice but it struck me as interesting that 'I don't enjoy parties like I used to. It's just not the same clean and sober'.

I think there is 'drinking' and 'drinking', having a few drinks to relax in a party atmosphere can be good but I know some people can take it too far which can spoil it for others. Not to mention the problems the addictiveness of alcohol and other substances can cause.

We all have a choice and live our lives as we see fit - nothing wrong with anyone's choices.

Have a great Christmas and a prosperous 2025 everyone, enjoy yourselves.

 

[clothman!!]

Think I’ll be doing a few days fishing to recharge the batteries

 

[dazmond]

I'm not knocking your decisions, that's your choice but it struck me as interesting that 'I don't enjoy parties like I used to. It's just not the same clean and sober'.

I think there is 'drinking' and 'drinking', having a few drinks to relax in a party atmosphere can be good but I know some people can take it too far which can spoil it for others. Not to mention the problems the addictiveness of alcohol and other substances can cause.

We all have a choice and live our lives as we see fit - nothing wrong with anyone's choices.

Have a great Christmas and a prosperous 2025 everyone, enjoy yourselves.

I've had my fill with drink and drug problems mate,as well as lots of people dying in their late 30s,early 40s(mates,associates and neighbours)over the last 10 years or so. I've also got 2 brothers who have alcohol problems....

So no.....I don't like pubs/clubs anymore esp when I'm surrounded by drunk people

Luckily xmas is basically one day where I have to put up with drunk family members and then it's over!

 

[steve garwood]

I've had my fill with drink and drug problems mate,as well as lots of people dying in their late 30s,early 40s(mates,associates and neighbours)over the last 10 years or so. I've also got 2 brothers who have alcohol problems....

So no.....I don't like pubs/clubs anymore esp when I'm surrounded by drunk people

Luckily xmas is basically one day where I have to put up with drunk family members and then it's over!

I’d rather chop my d1ck off than give up pubs

 

[Chris34]

I've had my fill with drink and drug problems mate,as well as lots of people dying in their late 30s,early 40s(mates,associates and neighbours)over the last 10 years or so. I've also got 2 brothers who have alcohol problems....

So no.....I don't like pubs/clubs anymore esp when I'm surrounded by drunk people

Luckily xmas is basically one day where I have to put up with drunk family members and then it's over!

I know how you feel.

I don't drink anymore, probably the odd pint when I’m actually away with my hobby but it's really rare and it's because of drink and drug problems in the family that mean every time I look at a drink it brings all the thoughts of what's going on currently... so I can't enjoy the drink. So if I can't enjoy it and it makes me think all the things going on... then there's no point...

I'm very angry about it as I used to love going out but too much has gone on.

Basically my brothers girlfriend has got my dad wrapped around her little finger. She's been with my brother for 7 years. Anyway last year my dad had a stroke and lost the use of his right arm and leg, this is a fit person who used to cycle to work being in hospital partially paralysed.

Whilst in hospital my mum was holding the fort at home and my brother and his girlfriend were looking after my 90 year old Grandma, who has dementia and lives at the family home, whilst my mum was going to the hospital to visit my dad. My brother was going off out to work and his girlfriend was left to look after my Grandma for the afternoon visits.

One day my mum was leaving the house, leaving my brothers girlfriend with my Grandma and as she went off down the road she noticed a car pull up behind her at the house and she just had a bad feeling about it, so she pulled up down the road and waited and watched. She saw my brothers girlfriend come out to the car, sit in the passenger seat for less than 1 minute, then get out and the car drove off.

That night I went to see her and she said ‘Chris I’ve got to get something off my chest… she told me and said do you think that’s drugs?’. I told her it’s definitely drugs…

Long story short, my brother eventually came clean, after constant pressure from myself, that she was a heroin addict, but he didn’t tell any of the details.

My mum confronted my dad about it in hospital and basically said if you know anything you better tell me now. He came clean about it and said he had been funding her habit…

My mum and myself found out more details when she managed to get access to my dads bank account and credit cards. My dad had been funding my brothers girlfriends habit for years to the tune of around £500 per week, he had maxed out his credit cards to the tune of £20k and I expect the rest was from my Grandparents inheritance which my dad would have had around £70k. He was working full time and was flat broke, so most of his earnings would have been going to her.

On top of this my dad was paying £800 per month on her flat for 3 years and paying all the bills. Something which I didn’t know, about but my mum did know about.

My mum was distraught on seeing the bank statements. She said she tracked all the dates and there was one particular time that stood out. She had gone away to Wales with my dad for a weekend for their 40th wedding anniversary, whilst there she recalls my dad several times going off to take calls on his phone. On the actual day of their anniversary he made several sizable transactions to her account. It’s this that hurt my mum the most. On the day of their special anniversary, my dads distracted and making payments to her.

My dad apologised and said he didn’t know why he did it. Whilst in hospital he said she means nothing to him now and he will have nothing to do with her.

Since leaving hospital he now says he didn’t know what he was saying in hospital doesn’t think she should be left to fend for herself but will do what my mum wants because of myself basically intervening and saying what he’s saying and wants to do isn’t right.

A few weeks ago I found out that my dad has now made several payments again to my brothers girlfriend.

My brother is working all the hours he can 60+ per week and is flat broke giving all his money to his girlfriend.

My mum has said that my dad has gone into his overdraft to get the money.

My brother won’t hear a bad word said about her, he will not leave her, he believes that funding the addiction is the right thing to do as in his words ‘it gives me a peaceful life’.

This is the short version, there’s tonnes more… But my brother is a heavy drinker and this is where it all started. So each time I see drink… I just get reminded of the nightmare that’s going on. Through his own drinking he has had a bleed on the brain and is now deaf in one ear…

What makes it all the more frustrating is that they actually all really like my brothers girlfriend and feel sorry for her. Even my uncle the other week was telling my brother to ‘wish her well’ (she's not allowed at the house because I stipulated if she ever turns up again I won't have anything to do with the family).

I honestly am being driven to insanity over it all. The stupidity of everyone is outstanding… but I can’t ignore it as it’s put in front of my face time and time again. I cannot control what they do with their monies...

I fully expect the next stage will be the remortgaging of my parents house for £500k, using equity release… to keep it all going. My mum won’t leave my dad because she loves him and they all play happy families pretending that it’s all normal, whilst in the background it’s nothing normal.

It drives my ffing crazy!!!

I can accept anyones drink and drug problems, it’s their choice, what I struggle to accept is sitting back and watching all of my parents money disappear into nothing when my mother in particular has worked extremely hard all her life as a nurse for the NHS. It’s just not right.

Unfortunately, when I see a pint now it just reminds me of it all and all I want to do is get away from it.

 

[Chris34]

Sorry for the long post, it's just something that is a big part of my family life.

 

[ched999uk]

Sorry for the long post, it's just something that is a big part of my family life.

That does sound bad, hope it gets better mate.